People love to talk about themselves – but how often do we really open up to our selves, our vulnerabilities or insecurities?
Shame identities are slightly different to shame triggers. They’re the traits you’ve been taught in childhood to associate with shame, that you can’t help but wander into – personality traits, or things like success, wealth or beauty.
There’s a good reason why you might “become someone else” when flying into a shame-based rage. You almost are someone else – the primal parts of your brain are being activated. Doesn’t this explain so much?
A client once came to me with a curious condition.
Calmly, this chap in his late twenties described how his throat would randomly seize up, making him unable to speak and barely able to breathe. I imagined him being like a victim of one of Darth Vader’s strangulations via “the force”.