There’s a good reason why you might “become someone else” when flying into a shame-based rage. You almost are someone else – the primal parts of your brain are being activated. Doesn’t this explain so much?
A client once came to me with a curious condition.
Calmly, this chap in his late twenties described how his throat would randomly seize up, making him unable to speak and barely able to breathe. I imagined him being like a victim of one of Darth Vader’s strangulations via “the force”.
An honest and subtle show that makes you love and hate the characters, whilst pondering your own life and personality traits along the way. Read More
Derren Brown is an extremely talented guy, clearly intelligent and thoughtful, and probably the most prolific person I’m aware of in showbusiness. I wonder sometimes if there are five Derrens made in a superted style factory somewhere, all churning out their multiple live shows, series, paintings and what-not. Read More
Sometimes I think Facebook is ok – it lets people keep in touch, and find each other through connections.
Other times I think its a bad thing – especially when I notice the affect is has on people (also myself, from time to time). Read More
The Hidden Handbrake – often, we’re our own worst enemies. We manage to somehow keep the things we really want just the right distance away so we never actually grab hold of them – whether a career position, goal, creative project or anything else. Why do people do this? Read More
There is always one key factor that pops up again and again, throughout my experiences as a therapist, during conversations with people about psychology, and in my head when quietly observing a person’s “patterns”. Read More
Its hard to think of another good film about the unconscious mind – the only other ones I can think of are Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Cabinet of Dr Caligari, Hitchcock’s Spellbound, David Cronenberg’s Spider and Jacobs Ladder. Inception is far and away my favourite “mind movie” – so packed with intelligence and ideas, especially for a big blockbuster movie. Read More
Gil Boyne passed away in his London home on Wednesday 5th May. I was fortunate enough to train with this awesome legend in LA, he was the last of the great hypnotherapists. Having worked extensively with some Hollywood greats including Sylvestor Stallone (helping motivate him to write Rocky), Gil went on to have a huge influence on hypnotherapy not only as a therapeutic practice but also as an industry. He pioneered the rapid induction (after Dave Elman), and his unique blend of various realms of psychotherapy (mainly gestalt) into his own “Transforming Therapy” is a personal favourite. His case studies and book of the same name are essential for anyone working within behaviour change.
in 2008, I travelled to LA to train with Gil, where I found his experienced awareness and compassion inspiring. Later he moved to London, and only weeks before his death he called me to discuss the possibility of working with him, based on an email I sent two years ago. We talked for a while about various things, including the nature of hypnotherapy in Britain and the challenges of doing it professionally. I found his candid and honest views reassuring. The conversation was cut short by someone calling at his house, and I never got round to following it up. Maybe it was nerves, maybe it was being too busy, but I deeply regret not having made more of the opportunity to learn from Gil whilst I could. All those times suddenly become immensely precious. And whilst I am deeply saddened by losing the last great remaining hypnotherapist, I’m grateful for being reminded not to take anything for granted. Gil was a personal hero, and a massive influence on my thoughts and personal philosophies about the human condition.