Shame identities are slightly different to shame triggers. They’re the traits you’ve been taught in childhood to associate with shame, that you can’t help but wander into – personality traits, or things like success, wealth or beauty.
There’s a good reason why you might “become someone else” when flying into a shame-based rage. You almost are someone else – the primal parts of your brain are being activated. Doesn’t this explain so much?
A client once came to me with a curious condition.
Calmly, this chap in his late twenties described how his throat would randomly seize up, making him unable to speak and barely able to breathe. I imagined him being like a victim of one of Darth Vader’s strangulations via “the force”.
An honest and subtle show that makes you love and hate the characters, whilst pondering your own life and personality traits along the way. Read More
Derren Brown is an extremely talented guy, clearly intelligent and thoughtful, and probably the most prolific person I’m aware of in showbusiness. I wonder sometimes if there are five Derrens made in a superted style factory somewhere, all churning out their multiple live shows, series, paintings and what-not. Read More
Sometimes I think Facebook is ok – it lets people keep in touch, and find each other through connections.
Other times I think its a bad thing – especially when I notice the affect is has on people (also myself, from time to time). Read More
The Hidden Handbrake – often, we’re our own worst enemies. We manage to somehow keep the things we really want just the right distance away so we never actually grab hold of them – whether a career position, goal, creative project or anything else. Why do people do this? Read More
There is always one key factor that pops up again and again, throughout my experiences as a therapist, during conversations with people about psychology, and in my head when quietly observing a person’s “patterns”. Read More
Its hard to think of another good film about the unconscious mind – the only other ones I can think of are Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Cabinet of Dr Caligari, Hitchcock’s Spellbound, David Cronenberg’s Spider and Jacobs Ladder. Inception is far and away my favourite “mind movie” – so packed with intelligence and ideas, especially for a big blockbuster movie. Read More