Here’s a nice example of how magazines like this are written to feed off your shame levels. Get thin fast! But not too fast, or you’ll be like the “biggest loser”. As if the covers weren’t bad enough, once you see whats inside then your shame levels will be manipulated even more so you buy the shit that’s being advertised.
I don’t need to tell you that people can absolutely change in a second when put under extreme anxious pressure – I’m sure you can remember your own experiences of this. Decent people can do incredibly bad things when their fear levels reach certain heights and protective mechanisms kick in. Here’s why…
The anxious effects of feeling threatened and “not good enough” are very human, and they really don’t deserve the added shame, guilt or feelings of being “broken” that more ignorant people are quick to suggest. “Pull yourself together!” “Get over it!” “Life’s too short!” Such impatient bullshit and lack of empathy is more often than not coming from a place of shame too.
This is a short one, but I just wanted to let you know about a text I just received from a friend. She sums up what most of us probably think, but rarely say.
Today I had a flurry of moments where people seemed to ignore important things – as if the ability to empathise was just switched off in everyone at the same time. I’ll admit, it freaked me out a bit. I didn’t know what to think. Here are just two of about five moments, see what you make of them:
You know that feeling where no matter how hard you try and push forward in life, you feel like something is holding you back and you get nowhere?
I’ve talked about this with a few different people – those feelings of being held back.
Sometimes the conversation is just a case of “hidden barriers”, or moves onto that all-too-common fear of rejection.
Sometimes it gets to being about something even scarier.
Years ago I knew this guy who was your typical laddy bloke – extrovert, a loud laugh, confident, fitted in well, played sports, enjoyed banter and going out, got overly excited about new Bond movies – that kind of thing. He met a girl at University, they’re still together, and he became a solicitor. But one late drunken night back then, after some pointless argument about something, he shared a secret with me.